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Subject: [Leica] Piercings and Tatoos
From: bdcolen at comcast.net (B. D. Colen)
Date: Tue Aug 2 13:22:58 2005

Not if you're the one doing the arrangement, or the male. ;-)


On 8/2/05 4:13 PM, "Der Eiserne Reiter" <ferider@yahoo.com> wrote:

> I have several friends whose marriage was arranged. Another friend will be
> getting
> married soon, arranged back home by his family. Believing in arranged
> marriages
> has nothing to do with discrimination.
> 
> Regards,
> 
> Roland.
> 
> --- "B. D. Colen" <bdcolen@comcast.net> wrote:
> 
>> With all due respect, Jayanand, it's not a question of "liberal European
>> thinking;" it's a question of whether one views women and men as equals, 
>> or
>> whether one views women as chattel, honored chattel in some societies, but
>> chattel none the less.
>> 
>> B. D.
>> 
>> 
>> On 8/2/05 9:21 AM, "Jayanand Govindaraj" <jgovindaraj@eth.net> wrote:
>> 
>>> You equate an arranged marriage with female circumcision? Wow! Liberal
>>> European thinking!!
>>> Cheers
>>> Jayanand Govindaraj
>>> Chennai, India
>>> (who has been happily married for 27 years through an arranged marriage, 
>>> and
>>> has had no problem with it)
>>> 
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Nathan Wajsman" <nathan.wajsman@planet.nl>
>>> To: "Leica Users Group" <lug@leica-users.org>
>>> Sent: Tuesday, August 02, 2005 10:30 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [Leica] Piercings and Tatoos
>>> 
>>> 
>>>> Well, I feel like I understand quite a few different cultures because of
>>>> my rather nomadic life, the international family I am part of, my Puerto
>>>> Rican wife etc. I agree with Dennis' sentiment that we should respect 
>>>> the
>>>> fact that things are done differently in other cultures/religions, but I
>>>> do not agree that this implies that they are all equally valid,
>>>> particularly in modern, liberal societies like the US or Europe. An
>>>> arranged marriage, for me, is beyond the pale in the 21st century, as 
>>>> is,
>>>> for example, female circumcision--which after all, also is grounded in a
>>>> strong cultural tradition. In Denmark there have been cases of parents
>>>> sending their daughters to Somalia to undergo this type of mutilation, 
>>>> and
>>>> of parents sending their daughters to rural Turkey or Pakistan for an
>>>> arranged marriage against their will. Both types of activities are
>>>> illegal, and rightly so.
>>>> 
>>>> As someone who has lived most of his life as an immigrant in four
>>>> different countries, I say that if someone wants to live like that, then
>>>> they should do so in South Asia or wherever this type of tradition is
>>>> considered normal. My guiding motto on this type of issue is the 
>>>> wonderful
>>>> American expression, "shit or get off the pot."
>>>> 
>>>> Strong family ties are all well and good, but not if they manifest
>>>> themselves in coercion or in practices that are unacceptable to the 
>>>> wider
>>>> society. Some decades ago the Mormons had to accept that polygamy was 
>>>> not
>>>> acceptable in the United States and they abandoned this tradition (yes, 
>>>> I
>>>> am aware of the splinter groups that still cling to it, but mainstream
>>>> Mormons do not). As far as I can tell from the Mormon friends and
>>>> co-workers I had in the US, this has not had any negative impact on 
>>>> their
>>>> family ties or ability to practice their religion.
>>>> 
>>>> BTW, we know several South Asians (as evident from my latest PAWs), many
>>>> Muslims among them, who all live in thoroughly modern, voluntary
>>>> marriages, in many cases to "infidels."
>>>> 
>>>> Nathan
>>>> 
>>>> Dennis Painter wrote:
>>>> 
>>>>> This is a very interesting set of photos. One certainly needs to know a
>>>>> bit of what's going on here to understand them. I am glad that Tina is
>>>>> working on this project as I doubt anyone could do better than her.
>>>>> Despite that I am not sure photographs will lead to greater
>>>>> understanding.
>>>>> 
>>>>> Much has been said of and about different cultures and cultural
>>>>> differences.  Here are my beliefs.
>>>>> 
>>>>> It's almost impossible to truly understand another culture. Perhaps if
>>>>> you know all the history, can read the language, and live within that
>>>>> culture for years, then, you might really understand.
>>>>> 
>>>>> If you apply your standards, your culture, against another you are lost
>>>>> to understanding.
>>>>> 
>>>>> The best way of "understanding" is to accept that what they believe and
>>>>> do is correct to their way of life and culture. Respect their culture.
>>>>> This helps greatly to avoid forming prejudice in your mind.
>>>>> 
>>>>> It's hard for me to put this into words.
>>>>> 
>>>>> 
>>>>> 
>>>> 
>>>> -- 
>>>> Nathan Wajsman
>>>> Almere, The Netherlands
>>>> 
>>>> General photography: http://www.nathanfoto.com
>>>> Seville photography: http://www.fotosevilla.com
>>>> Stock photography: http://www.alamy.com/search-results.asp?qt=wajsman
>>>> http://myloupe.com/home/found_photographer.php?photographer=507
>>>> Prints for sale: http://www.photodeluge.com
>>>> 
>>>> 
>>>> 
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