Archived posting to the Leica Users Group, 2012/05/31
[Author Prev] [Author Next] [Thread Prev] [Thread Next] [Author Index] [Topic Index] [Home] [Search]Thank you for your wonderful perspective, Ted. I have been married for 29 years, and although there have been up and downs, it sure beats being single. And the two children that have resulted from this marriage are a continuing source of joy for me every day of my life. Cheers, Nathan Nathan Wajsman Alicante, Spain http://www.frozenlight.eu http://www.greatpix.eu http://www.nathanfoto.com PICTURE OF THE WEEK: http://www.fotocycle.dk/paws Blog: http://nathansmusings.wordpress.com/ YNWA On May 31, 2012, at 9:34 PM, <tedgrant at shaw.ca> wrote: > As much as this hurts I have to put my 2 pennies worth of opinion on > long-time marriage! Given I just experienced 63 years of a very lovingly > interesting and satisfying married life before my dear Irene passed on. :-( > > If in the beginning you marry a good woman or good man understanding it's > not going to be a bed of roses and there maybe in that bed of roses a few > "pricks" along the way. That you are prepared to have the odd straining > moments of communication, both heated and as lovingly as it can possibly > be. To admit, you as the male are prepared to accept you "ARE WRONG AND > SHE IS RIGHT!" And vise versa! It's a two way street always! Give and > take, get over it and move on together still enjoying the wonderful > feeling of her or he cuddled by your side anytime . > > If you are properly matched? Obviously understood right from the first > time you find her cuddled by your side in the warmth of the night. There > isn't any reason for a pennies worth of thought about divorce. I see > divorcing when children have been conceived as one of the most cruel > things parents can bestowe on their off spring. Having not done that, I'm > sure there are other opinions. > > By the same token today's society is a wrangle of perceived "entitlement > beyond common sense" where "NO" is the only so called correcting answer to > everything. "No you can't do that, this and every stupid asinine reason to > turn the society into some quagmire of stupid ill-conceived rules, laws > and regulations." > > But if you have the right woman or male by your side in the beginning, > none of the garbage-pit regulations conceived by moronic politicians and > government bureaucrats will deter you one iota from a beautiful long and > enjoyable life with the mate you've loved beyond your wildest dreams and > thoughts when you first said "I Do!" > > I find the "bitterness shown here" by some extremely unfortunate for the > so called "Victim!" But one must ask ..... "What happened to the "two way > street of give and take?" Stubbornness of stupidity by both doesn't solve > anything. > > The "Whores of Hollywood" and societies of today's lust for all the crap > stuff promoted in crappy celebrity magazines that cater to the witless > fools who see the events of Hollywood as... "They do, so I do!" It is > this kind of crap the completely innocent women and men in the first > place, see divorce is the only answer. Then do it and the next thing you > know they've grab another foolish male or female ready to wed. They do it > as quickly and as fast "as a Saturday night whore changing her undies!" > And all they've done is move them selves into another quagmire that ends > again in divorce. > > I'm sorry but I don't by all this bull-shit about divorce being the be-all > answer to solving marital problems. Sure there are going to be the > exception simply because if the wrong mate was picked because she or he > was a "WOW FACTOR IN THE SACK!" That only helps on cold winter nights, but > that's only a part of a successful marriage. > > I need not go on any longer as I know my married life was great, sure we > had some wild old verbal battles. Everybody does at sometime or other and > anyone saying they never had a squabble is probably lying. That's all part > of Mother Natures Communications in working things out. After all it is a > two way street of give and take. > > Unfortunately nobody was around with a Leica to photograph some of our > "discussions?" ;-) Oscar martial for the cover of LIFE magazine! ;-) > > Bottom-line? We loved each other, enjoyed our great times together, had 4 > great and wonderful successful children. And now 10 Grand children who are > also cracker jack kids and the oldest two will own their own business > operations one of these days as they're already laying out plans and how. > 20 & 21! > > All a hell of a lot brighter than their grandfather when it comes to the > "Art of running a business." OH yeah and both have wonderful sharp ladies > by their sides. > > So there you go eh! I just wish it were 63 years and counting! :-( I miss > her dearly. :-( > > cheers, > ted > > > > _______________________________________________ > Leica Users Group. > See http://leica-users.org/mailman/listinfo/lug for more information >