[Leica] MARRIAGE / Reorganizing my equipment collection

[imra at iol.ie (Douglas Barry)]

Ted, a truly wonderful post. This cynic blubbed like a baby.

Douglas
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Douglas Barry
Bray, Co. Wicklow
Republic of Ireland

----- Original Message ----- 
From: <tedgrant at shaw.ca>
To: "Leica Users Group" <lug at leica-users.org>
Sent: Thursday, May 31, 2012 8:34 PM
Subject: [Leica] MARRIAGE / Reorganizing my equipment collection


> As much as this hurts I have to put my 2 pennies worth of opinion on 
> long-time marriage! Given I just experienced 63 years of a very lovingly 
> interesting and satisfying married life before my dear Irene passed on. 
> :-(
>
> If in the beginning you marry a good woman or good man understanding it's 
> not going to be a bed of roses and there maybe in that bed of roses a few 
> "pricks" along the way. That you are prepared to have the odd straining 
> moments of communication, both heated and as lovingly as it can possibly 
> be. To admit, you as the male are prepared to accept you "ARE WRONG AND 
> SHE IS RIGHT!" And vise versa! It's a two way street always! Give and 
> take, get over it and move on together still enjoying the wonderful 
> feeling of her or he cuddled by your side anytime .
>
> If you are properly matched? Obviously understood right from the first 
> time you find her cuddled by your side in the warmth of the night. There 
> isn't any reason for a pennies worth of thought about divorce. I see 
> divorcing when children have been conceived as one of the most cruel 
> things parents can bestowe on their off spring. Having not done that, I'm 
> sure there are other opinions.
>
> By the same token today's society is a wrangle of perceived "entitlement 
> beyond common sense" where "NO" is the only so called correcting answer to 
> everything. "No you can't do that, this and every stupid asinine reason to 
> turn the society into some quagmire of stupid ill-conceived rules, laws 
> and regulations."
>
> But if you have the right woman or male by your side in the beginning, 
> none of the garbage-pit regulations conceived by moronic politicians and 
> government bureaucrats will deter you one iota from a beautiful long and 
> enjoyable life with the mate you've loved beyond your wildest dreams and 
> thoughts when you first said "I Do!"
>
> I find the "bitterness shown here" by some extremely unfortunate for the 
> so called "Victim!" But one must ask ..... "What happened to the "two way 
> street of give and take?" Stubbornness of stupidity by both doesn't solve 
> anything.
>
> The "Whores of Hollywood" and societies of today's lust for all the crap 
> stuff promoted in crappy celebrity magazines that cater to the witless 
> fools who see the events of Hollywood as... "They do, so I do!"  It is 
> this kind of crap the completely innocent women and men in the first 
> place, see divorce is the only answer. Then do it and the next thing you 
> know they've grab another foolish male or female ready to wed. They do it 
> as quickly and as fast "as a Saturday night whore changing her undies!" 
> And all they've done is move them selves into another quagmire that ends 
> again in divorce.
>
> I'm sorry but I don't by all this bull-shit about divorce being the be-all 
> answer to solving marital problems. Sure there are going to be the 
> exception simply because if the wrong mate was picked because she or he 
> was a "WOW FACTOR IN THE SACK!" That only helps on cold winter nights, but 
> that's only a part of a successful marriage.
>
> I need not go on any longer as I know my married life was great, sure we 
> had some wild old verbal battles. Everybody does at sometime or other and 
> anyone saying they never had a squabble is probably lying. That's all part 
> of Mother Natures Communications in working things out. After all it is a 
> two way street of give and take.
>
> Unfortunately nobody was around with a Leica to photograph some of our 
> "discussions?" ;-) Oscar martial for the cover of LIFE magazine! ;-)
>
> Bottom-line? We loved each other, enjoyed our great times together, had 4 
> great and wonderful successful children. And now 10 Grand children who are 
> also cracker jack kids and the oldest two will own their own business 
> operations one of these days as they're already laying out plans and how. 
> 20 & 21!
>
> All a hell of a lot brighter than their grandfather when it comes to the 
> "Art of running a business." OH yeah and both have wonderful sharp ladies 
> by their sides.
>
> So there you go eh! I just wish it were 63 years and counting! :-( I miss 
> her dearly. :-(
>
> cheers,
> ted
>
>
>
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