[Leica] Re: Photographic Stress (Jorg's Wife)

[LP6@aol.com]

Jorg:

Re:  Coping with photographic stress.

1.  In the moment:  Have your wife take a deep belly  (abdominal) breath and
on each exhale say to herself:    "Wow!...did I screw up!"  Repeat this 3-6
times!   (This is at once a distraction defense, densitization, and a
productive of acceptance (not surrender) that will free her mind to cope in
the spirit of a clever fox that leaves behind the nonsense of scared rabbit
and angry bear coping strategies.  This can be a very powerful owning exercise
if it is rehersed and sufficiently practiced.  Freeing the self for creative
problem solving comes from owning in the sense of being more conscious and
giving onself permission to have goofed!  Owning isn't surrender, it is
positioning!  

1.  Before the moment:  Have your wife ask herself what's the worst that can
happen?   Then proceed with a drill as follows:  repeat many times that the
worst is "sad and bad" and not "awful".   Dispute, challenge, and uproot the
awfulizing or catastrophizing  (modern cognitive psychology).   One might ask
oneself for the evidence that the goof is awful in a continued effort to
establish the mind-set that it is just sad and bad. 
     Your wife should internalize this admonition deeply,  by  the brutal
expedient  and tour de force of repetition so well known to the athlete.  
      Further, visualization of the worse cast scenario, paired with the
notion  (new attitude correction) that it is sad and bad....enough
times...will allow this attitudinal and philosophical correction comes alive
within her!  
       I speak here of "parenting the self" with powerful new ideas to live by
and this is the path of stress reform and management.  

Best of  "Light",

Leon
LP6@aol.com