Archived posting to the Leica Users Group, 2001/02/27

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Subject: RE: [Leica] NOT an explanation or an apology but another 'snipe'!
From: "Austin Franklin" <austin@darkroom.com>
Date: Tue, 27 Feb 2001 15:22:17 -0500

> It is when another "officious pedantic know-it-all" attempts to horn in on
> MY territory ;-) , disseminate incorrect information, then like a
> pit bull,
> will not let go of this less than valuable, basically incorrect and/or
> useless information, I get a little verbal.

Simply amazing.  Jim has taken something someone else said to/about him, and
in the GUISE OF A SUPPOSED APOLOGY, managed to turn it around and publicly
demean me with it.

I have responded to Jim in private, a number of times, requesting that he
stop this behavior, and he refuses to respect my request.  Perhaps this
behavior is just so engrained in his 'nature' that he doesn't see it, or is
too numb to understand the impact it has on others...or for him is usually
an effective defense mechanism.  I'm not a shrink, I don't know and I don't
really care, bit I do know I want it to stop.

I do apologize to the group for being 'party to' this bad behavior, but I do
not believe I should allow my self to be publicly bullied and demeaned, as
Jim continues to do to me, and just 'take it'.  That is not fair to expect
of anyone.  Though his 'behavior' may work on others, it will not work with
me.  Which is probably where the problem lies.

I have rarely in my life been subject to near this type of behavior, much
less this constant behavior Jim displays towards me, including sniping at me
in unrelated posts.  In the rare instances when anything like this has come
up, and if warranted, I took it up privately with the person and resolved
the issue.  I tried with Jim, and obviously he does not want to stop his
behavior.

Despite Jim's claims to the contrary, nothing I've "disseminated" has Jim
been able to show to be incorrect.  Just saying it is incorrect does not
make it incorrect.  I do not mind anyone disagreeing with me in a civil
manner, or even being wrong...but I do mind being demeaned and disrespected
in the process.  I also mind Jim constantly claiming that his way/opinion is
the ONLY right answer and if I do not agree with that I am an idiot.  I do
not believe I behave towards others that way.

I do really wish for this to stop.  I feel I am in a lose-lose
situation...though.  I don't reply, Jim continues to get away with publicly
berating me...I do reply, I am adding to the fray...