Archived posting to the Leica Users Group, 2001/02/27
[Author Prev] [Author Next] [Thread Prev] [Thread Next] [Author Index] [Topic Index] [Home] [Search]> It is when another "officious pedantic know-it-all" attempts to horn in on > MY territory ;-) , disseminate incorrect information, then like a > pit bull, > will not let go of this less than valuable, basically incorrect and/or > useless information, I get a little verbal. Simply amazing. Jim has taken something someone else said to/about him, and in the GUISE OF A SUPPOSED APOLOGY, managed to turn it around and publicly demean me with it. I have responded to Jim in private, a number of times, requesting that he stop this behavior, and he refuses to respect my request. Perhaps this behavior is just so engrained in his 'nature' that he doesn't see it, or is too numb to understand the impact it has on others...or for him is usually an effective defense mechanism. I'm not a shrink, I don't know and I don't really care, bit I do know I want it to stop. I do apologize to the group for being 'party to' this bad behavior, but I do not believe I should allow my self to be publicly bullied and demeaned, as Jim continues to do to me, and just 'take it'. That is not fair to expect of anyone. Though his 'behavior' may work on others, it will not work with me. Which is probably where the problem lies. I have rarely in my life been subject to near this type of behavior, much less this constant behavior Jim displays towards me, including sniping at me in unrelated posts. In the rare instances when anything like this has come up, and if warranted, I took it up privately with the person and resolved the issue. I tried with Jim, and obviously he does not want to stop his behavior. Despite Jim's claims to the contrary, nothing I've "disseminated" has Jim been able to show to be incorrect. Just saying it is incorrect does not make it incorrect. I do not mind anyone disagreeing with me in a civil manner, or even being wrong...but I do mind being demeaned and disrespected in the process. I also mind Jim constantly claiming that his way/opinion is the ONLY right answer and if I do not agree with that I am an idiot. I do not believe I behave towards others that way. I do really wish for this to stop. I feel I am in a lose-lose situation...though. I don't reply, Jim continues to get away with publicly berating me...I do reply, I am adding to the fray...